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第一章 什麼是真?什麼是假?大家會用什麼去衡量?

楊俊老師
真正的朋友,是一生的感动!(好文)
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人,太心软落到这样的下场,老实人都该看看!



周華健 - 朋友

作詞:高健益
作曲:高健益

這些年 一個人
風也過 雨也走
有過淚 有過錯
還記得堅持甚麼
真愛過 才會懂
會寂寞 會回首
終有夢 終有你 在心中
朋友 一生一起走
那些日子 不再有
一句話 一輩子
一生情 一杯酒
朋友 不曾孤單過
一聲朋友 你會懂
還有傷 還有痛
還要走 還有我
這些年 一個人
風也過 雨也走
有過淚 有過錯
還記得堅持甚麼
真愛過 才會懂
會寂寞 會回首
終有夢 終有你 在心中
朋友 一生一起走
那些日子 不再有
一句話 一輩子
一生情 一杯酒
朋友 不曾孤單過
一聲朋友 你會懂
還有傷 還有痛
還要走 還有我
朋友 一生一起走
那些日子 不再有
一句話 一輩子
一生情 一杯酒
朋友 不曾孤單過
一聲朋友 你會懂
還有傷 還有痛
還要走 還有我
朋友 一生一起走
那些日子 不再有
一句話 一輩子
一生情 一杯酒
朋友 不曾孤單過
一聲朋友 你會懂
還有傷 還有痛
還要走 還有我
一句話 一輩子
一生情 一杯酒

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任賢齊 - 心太軟


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作曲:小蟲
編曲:Christopher Troy

你總是心太軟 心太軟 獨自一個人流淚到天亮
你無怨無悔的愛著那個人 我知道你根本沒那麼堅強
你總是心太軟 心太軟 把所有問題都自己扛
相愛總是簡單 相處太難 不是你的 就別再勉強

夜深了你還不想睡 你還在想著他嗎
你這樣癡情到底累不累 明知他不會回來安慰

只不過想好好愛一個人 可惜他無法給你滿分
多餘的犧牲他不懂心疼 你應該不會只想做個好人

喔 算了吧 就這樣忘了吧 該放就放 再想也沒有用
傻傻等待 他也不會回來 你總該為自己想想未來


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昊栩 發表於 2017-7-17 21:24
We must intentionally dwell on biblical truths and cultivate the mind of Christ in our thought life  ...

我們必須在每天的思想生活中,沉思聖經的真理,培養基督的思想:
  • 你們要思念上面的事,不要思念地上的事。歌羅西書3:2
  • 你們要先求他的國和他的義,這些東西都要加給你們了。馬太福音6:33
  • 你們必曉得真理,真理必叫你們得以自由。約翰福音8:32
  • 因為他們必平安撒種,葡萄樹必結果子,地土必有出產,天也必降甘露。我要使這餘剩的民享受這一切的福。撒迦利亞書8:12
  • 這有何妨呢?或是假意,或是真心,無論怎樣,基督究竟被傳開了。為此我就歡喜,並且還要歡喜。。腓立比書1:18
  • 我雖然行過死蔭的幽谷,也不怕遭害,因為你與我同在,你的杖、你的竿都安慰我。詩篇23:4
  • 神說:在末後的日子,我要將我的靈澆灌凡有血氣的,你們的兒女要說預言,你們的少年人要見異象,老年人要做異夢。使徒行傳2:17


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面對威脅我們未來的恐懼

如果你覺得你是唯一一個試圖與誘惑鬥爭的人,再想一想。自從人類開始以來,人們一直在失去自我控制的鬥爭。

聖經告訴我們很多關於神有缺陷的追隨者。夏娃是第一個對誘惑說是的人,亞當很快就跟著,詛咒了地球和讓罪惡滲進入了人類(創世記3:1-7)。大衛與拔示巴通姦而不是對他的慾望說不,並在他的餘生中種下了可怕的果後果 - 他兒子的死,另一個兒子背叛了他的王國,並喪失了主權好一段時間。(撤母耳後記 11:1-4)。在大利拉多次懇求和哭泣之後,參孫放棄了自己力量的秘密,蒙受了失明和自由的損失,最終失去了自己寶貴的生命(士師記16:15-21)。

所以在對誘惑說是之前,我們應該問自己以下幾個問題:

  • 這個奉獻的來源是哪裡?上帝永遠不會誘惑我們做任何包含罪惡或邪惡的事(雅各書1:13)。任何偏離真理和公義的願望都是從惡魔中釋放出來的。我們必須專注於主,記住他對此的看法,而不是被所提供的快樂或利益所帶走。此奉獻有哪些要求?屈服於誘惑要求我們放棄自己的信念。罪的公價永遠是昂貴的,因為我們必須付出我們的誠實,純潔和誠信。
  • 這個行為的後果是什麼?當誘惑來臨時,我們通常只考慮現在,而不是長期的後果。但這一刻的滿足是永遠不值得它所戴來的不可避免且緊接著的痛苦和罪疚感。

我們也應該考慮這些原因,為什麼人們猶豫不決對誘惑說不:

  • 害怕被拒絕。如果我們不跟隨別人要我們做的事情,我們可能不被接受。然而,由於我們的信念而被某人拒絕,就揭示了那對我們有好處的東西 - 我們與上帝保持著牢固的關係,並致力於服從他。
  • 害怕失去關係。我們可能認為說不可能導致失去朋友或永遠結不了婚,但是任何時候我們放下一些關係,以保持服從上帝,我們正在為自己尊定給自己的祝福。
  • 擔心財務損失。竊取或欺騙的誘惑之原因往往是由於擔心失去錢財或不足夠的供給。
  • 害怕失去機會。有時我們感到壓力做出一個不明智的決定,擔心機會永遠不會再來。但是,如果這個機會不是來自神,那可能會有毀滅性的結果。但是,如果我們服從耶和華,他就會將我們確切地放在我們所希望的地方,按照他的旨意打開門。
  • 害怕我們的自我形象受損。為了自己感覺良好,我們可能會試圖追求世界價值觀 - 最好的衣服,汽車,家庭和工作 - 而不考慮我們可能生活在不服從上帝的地步。他知道對我們最有利的,如果我們跟隨他而不是世界,神將指導我們的未來。

是什麼讓你過去接受了誘惑?學會在上帝的話語中堅強,捍衛敵人的敵意攻擊。你可以通過十字架的力量勇敢地用聖靈的幫助來打敗誘惑。

沒有譴責只有愛
羅馬書8:1-2
父親對他兒女的愛是如此巨大,使我們永遠不能完全理解(以弗所書3:14-19)。上帝的愛是恆常的,不變的,永恆的。但有時我們讓情緒告訴我們相對的惡。

在我們心中,我們經常將神聖的愛與我們的行為聯繫起來。當我們好起來的時候,我們相信我們是被上帝愛的。但是,當我們犯罪或犯錯誤時,我們有時會質疑他對我們的關心。經過一系列的錯誤之後,我們可能會得出悖論,我們可能得出他不贊成我們所行的,多於更頻繁地愛我們的結論。我們中有些人甚至認為主的審判掛在我們的頭上像一個黑暗的雲彩。

事實是,沒有任何信徒譴責我們。在全能的神面前譴責我們的一切,都置於被釘在十字架上的耶穌基督身上。在父神神聖的法庭上,他的兒子在我們的地方被認定為有罪,所以我們可以永遠擺脫譴責。就好像上帝用「已經付了全額」的印章蓋上了我們的罪惡債務記錄。無論發生什麼事,無論是在救恩之前還是將來還有幾年時間 – 信徒的過犯都由耶穌的寶血全額支付了。沒有信徒為著罪惡虧欠了上帝。

耶和華不會漠視我們的罪惡。他是一個慈愛的天父,他會用紀律把我們帶回上帝般的行為(希伯來書12:7)。他也讓我們體驗罪惡的後果;然而,神聖的譴責並不是他為我們所準備的其中之一目的。你今天會不會打開你的心和用心來接受上帝的愛呢?


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We must intentionally dwell on biblical truths and cultivate the mind of Christ in our thought life daily.
1.        Set your minds on things above, not on earthly things. Colossians 3:2
2.        But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well.  Matthew 6:33
3.        Then you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free. John 8:32
4.        The seed will grow well, the vine will yield its fruit, the ground will produce its crops, and the heavens will drop their dew. I will give all these things as an inheritance to the remnant of this people. Zechariah 8:12
5.        But what does it matter? The important thing is that in every way, whether from false motives or true, Christ is preached. And because of this I rejoice. Yes, and I will continue to rejoice. Philippians 1:18
6.        Even though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I fear no evil, for You are with me. –Psalm 23:4
7.        In the last days, God says, I will pour out my Spirit on all people. Your sons and daughters will prophesy, your young men will see visions, your old men will dream dreams. Acts 2:17

THE STRUGGLE
Facing the Fears That Threaten Our Future

If you feel like you’re the only person to ever struggle with temptation, think again. Ever since the beginning of the human race, people have been losing the battle for self-control.
The Bible tells us about many flawed followers of God. Eve was the first person who said yes to temptation, and Adam soon followed, bringing a curse upon the earth and sin into the human race (Gen. 3:1-7). Instead of saying no to his lust, David committed adultery with Bathsheba and suffered the horrible consequences for the rest of his life—the death of his son, betrayal by another son, and the loss of his kingdom for a short while (2 Sam. 11:1-4). And after Delilah repeatedly pleaded and cried, Samson gave up the secret of his strength and suffered the loss of his eyes and freedom, and eventually his life (Judg. 16:15-21).
So before saying yes to temptation, we should ask ourselves the following questions:
What is the source of this offer? God never tempts us to do anything sinful or evil (James 1:13). Any desire that veers from truth and righteousness is from the devil. Instead of being carried away by the pleasure or benefits of the offer, we must focus on the Lord and remember what He thinks about it.
What are the requirements of this offer? Yielding to temptation requires that we lay down our convictions. Sin is always expensive because it costs us our honesty, purity, and integrity.
What are the consequences of this act? When temptation comes, we usually think only about the present, not the long-term consequences. But the satisfaction of the moment is never worth the pain and guilt that inevitably follows.
We should also consider these reasons why people hesitate to say no to temptation:
Fear of rejection. If we don’t follow along with what others want us to do, we may not be accepted. However, being rejected by someone because of our convictions reveals something good about us—that we have a strong relationship with God and are committed to obeying Him.
Fear of losing a relationship. We may think that saying no could result in losing a friend or never getting married, but any time we lay down a relationship in order to remain obedient to God, we are positioning ourselves to be blessed by Him.
Fear of the loss of finances. The temptation to steal or cheat is often fueled by a fear of losing money or not having enough.
Fear of the loss of an opportunity. Sometimes we feel pressured to make an unwise decision, fearing that the opportunity may never come again. However, if this opportunity is not from God, it could have devastating results. But if we live in obedience to the Lord, He will place us exactly where he wants us and open doors in accordance with His will.
Fear of the loss of our self-image. In an effort to feel good about ourselves, we may be tempted to pursue what the world values—the finest clothes, cars, homes, and jobs—without considering that we might be living in disobedience to God. He knows what is best for us and will direct our future if we’ll follow Him instead of the world.
What has caused you to yield to temptation in the past? Learn to stand strong in God’s Word and defend yourself from the Enemy’s attacks. You can courageously say no to temptation with help from the Holy Spirit through the power of the cross.

No Condemnation; Only Love
Romans 8:1-2

The Father’s love for His children is so vast that we can never fully fathom its extent (Ephesians 3:14-19). God’s love is constant, unchanging, and eternal. But sometimes we have emotions that tell us otherwise.
In our mind, we frequently correlate divine love and our behavior. When we have been good, we believe that we’re loved by God. But when we sin or make mistakes, we sometimes question how much He cares for us. After a series of missteps, we might conclude He disapproves of us far more often than He loves us. Some of us even think that the Lord’s judgment hangs over our heads like a dark cloud.
The truth is, there is no condemnation for any believer. Everything that would condemn us before almighty God was placed upon Jesus at the cross. In the Father’s divine court of law, His Son was found guilty in our place so we could be set free from condemnation forever. It’s as if God stamped the record of our sin-debt with the words “paid in full.” No matter when the offense occurred—whether before salvation or years still in the future—the Christian’s transgressions are fully paid for by Jesus’ blood. No believer is indebted to God for sin.
The Lord does not excuse our sin. He is a loving heavenly Father, and He will use discipline to bring us back to godly behavior (Heb. 12:7). He also allows us to experience the consequences of sin; however, divine condemnation is not one of them. Won’t you open your heart and mind to receive God’s love today?
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昊栩 發表於 2017-7-17 21:24

We must intentionally dwell on biblical truths and cultivate the mind of Christ in our thought life  ...


Bare my Soul - to tell someone your secret thoughts and feelings
赤露我的靈魂 - 告訴某人你的秘密想法和感受


bare my soul quotes



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#38 Faith
Faith kept us alive and gathers strength
In our communities and our country
It took me a bit to find the wavelength
Enfant terrible ban from ministry
Above all, we shall need faith in ourselves
In the degree that you have faith in yourself

Faith is to believe what we do not see
Our sorrows path the way for fuller life
An important mark on a healthy tree
Thy framework where superstition still rife
Unless someone has the deep conviction
A battle aims to fight superstition

Faith without works is a bird without wings
Faithless, she will never fly to heaven
Worst of all, the darling hope for the spring
A table must be perfectly even
The angel wings of God's glad messengers
One's chances of success was endangered

Faith the reservoir where we draw power
Faith gives us strength help one to carry on
From the woods brought an anemone flower
In a perpetual glare of neon
We rooted and built up in our Lord God
You are fighting against heavy odds

Faith as iron, those roaring from the fans
Faith is positive, Doubt is negative
His work is part of an unending plan
Could we learn to be more intuitive?
Doubt robbing life of glow and meaning
Learn to be faithful, save you from drowning

Faith enriching life in the here and now
Faith is the root of all our Lord's blessing
Do what one promised in thy vows
Between the lines leave a single spacing
Move from practice than from speculations
Still the burden of His exhortation

Faith is not trying to believe something
It is regardless of the evidence
Among it is daring to do something
It is regardless of the consequences
Life without faith, a man can do nothing
Even if it sounds crazy to do something

A man if courage is full of faith
The reward is to see what we believe
In your bare feet, silent as a wraith
Overcome difference, way of relief
Expect victory, you make victory
Bravery and faith bring us victory

Lack of faith, it cuts you off from the good
Life without honour, take to the Heather
Who are wandering lonely in the wood
However when both joined together
Then doth the soul to her eternal rest
Bounded aloneness, a drill on the test

We need not be afraid of the future
For the future will be in our own hands
Everything beautiful in the scripture
No wistful expression, please make a stand
The light should be simple and unbending
The love of God, no way for pretending

But you must trust and be trusting you must wait
You must hear the rustle of the angel
Surrounding by love we are all your mate
Staying awake to pray by long vigil
Believe what can be done is essential
And no man realise his potential

Who has faith in himself can be faithful
Do your works in a faith atmosphere
Discipline no way that can be wrathful
Be counted on the Eastern hemisphere
The beautiful light born of darkness
Praise the Lord holds together our weakness

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We must intentionally dwell on biblical truths and cultivate the mind of Christ in our thought life  ...

#35 The Writing On The Wall
Burning fire casts shadows on the walls,
Until the day he breaks free of his chains;
Disavow any knowledge of the stall,
A stake to hobnob the voluble gain.
The luculent speech description,
Escapes fallacy, come to real daylight;
A workout regimen preparation,
He would be blinded by the glare of light.
Slowly adjust and make out real objects,
A spout of deceitful invectives;
Realises the outside and shadow effects,
The working of collaboratives.
     Mount into the light of reality.
     Bond in a collective society.

Glossary:
disavow - to deny knowledge of, connection with, or responsibility for
stall - to cause (a motor or the vehicle it powers) to stop, especially by supplying it with a poor fuel mixture or overloading it
hobnob - to socialize or talk informally, to associate on very friendly terms
voluble - characterized by a ready and continuous flow of words; fluent; glib; talkative
luculent - convincing; cogent; bright or shining; glowing
fallacy - a misleading or unsound argument; deceptive, misleading, or false nature; erroneousness
regimen - a regulated course, as of diet, exercise, or manner of living, intended to preserve or restore health or to attain some result
glare - a fiercely or angrily piercing stare; a very harsh, bright, dazzling light
spout - informal. to talk or speak at some length or in an oratorical manner
deceitful - misleading; fraudulent
invectives - vehement or violent denunciation, censure, or reproach; a railing accusation; vituperation






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昊栩 發表於 2017-7-19 05:52
#35 The Writing On The Wall
Burning fire casts shadows on the walls,
Until the day he breaks free  ...

http://www.mirror.co.uk/sport/formula-1/michael-schumacher-skiing-accident-what-9533366

由衷熱切,傳道精神
堅定信仰,慈善行為
尋求真理,認真努力
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穿鑿附會chuān záo fù huì
詞典解釋
[成語解釋]
穿鑿:把講不通的硬要講通;附會:把不相幹的事拉在一起。把講不通的或不相幹的道理、事情硬扯在一起進行解釋。
[典故出處]
宋·洪邁《容齋續筆·義理之說無窮》卷二:“用是知好奇者欲穿鑿附會固各有說雲。”
[ 近義詞 ]
牽強附會
[ 反義詞 ]
融會貫通
[成語舉例]
但在解釋經文的時候,卻往往一個字一個字的咬嚼;這一咬嚼,便不顧上下文穿鑿附會起來瞭。(朱自清《經典常談 春秋三傳第六》)



昔者莊周夢為胡蝶,栩栩然胡蝶也,自喻適志與!不知周也。俄然覺,則茫茫然周也。
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Friendship (1)
'A man of too many friends comes to ruin.' Proverbs 18:24 NAS
With few exceptions, your success in life depends on your ability to establish and maintain relationships with the right people. According to a report by the American Management Association, the overwhelming consensus of two hundred managers who participated in a survey was that the most important skill of an executive is his or her ability to get along with people. They rated this ability as more vital than intelligence, decisiveness, knowledge or job skills.
Quite frankly, none of us makes very many true friends in life - at least, we better not! Solomon warns, 'A man of too many friends comes to ruin' (Proverbs 18:24 NAS). Friendship requires time, energy, sacrifice and investing yourself. And not every so-called friend will prove to be one, as Jeremiah warned King Zedekiah: 'They misled you and overcame you - those trusted friends of yours. Your feet are sunk in the mud; your friends have deserted you' (Jeremiah 38:22 NIV). The wrong friend may betray you, as Judas proved with Jesus. So here's a good rule of thumb: 'Be friendly to everyone, but don't have everyone as a friend.' Solomon said, 'The godly give good advice to their friends; the wicked lead them astray' (Proverbs 12:26 NLT).
Charles Spurgeon said, 'A man is known by the company he shuns, as well as the company he keeps.' One Hebrew word for 'choose' is tur, and in the Old Testament it refers to a man like a surveyor who searches out land. So if you're wise, you'll explore and evaluate your friendships before you enter into them. You say, 'But I'm lonely.' As George Washington said, 'It is better to be alone than in bad company.'

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濫交朋友的自取敗壞,但有一朋友比弟兄更親密。箴言18:24
除了少數例外,您在生活中的成功取決於您建立和維持與合適人員的關係的能力。根據美國管理協會的一份報告,參加調查的兩百名經理人的壓倒性共識是,行政人員最重要的技能是他或她與人相處的能力。他們認為這種能力比智力,決定能力,知識或工作技能更重要。
坦白說,我們生活中沒有人真正擁有真正朋友 - 至少,我們最好不要!所羅門王警告說,「濫交朋友的自取敗壞。」(箴言18:24)友誼需要時間,精力,犧牲和投資自己。並不是所有所謂的朋友都會被證明是真正朋友,因為耶利米警告西底家王,他們誤導了你,克服了你 - 那些你認為值得信賴的朋友。你的腳沉在泥裡;你的朋友已經離棄你了(耶利米書38:22)。正如猶大與耶穌一樣證明的,不合適的朋友可能背叛你。所以這裡有一個很好的經驗法則:「對所有人都很友善,但不要每個人都是朋友。」所羅門王說:「義人引導他的鄰舍,惡人的道叫人失迷。」(箴言12:26)
查爾斯•斯普吉恩(Charles Spurgeon)說:「一個男人被認定當某些友伴迴避他,以及他所擁有的同伴。」「選擇」的希伯來語字是tur,而在舊約中,它指的是一個像測量司的人,測量土地。所以如果你是聰明的,你會在你進入之前探索和評估你的友誼。你說,「但我很孤獨。」正如喬治華盛頓(George Washington)所說,「孤獨比處於損友之間更好。」

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Friendship (2)
'A man who has friends must himself be friendly.' Proverbs 18:24 NKJV
In order to have a good friend, you must first try to be a good friend. An unknown poet wrote, 'I went out to find a friend, but could not find one there; I went out to be a friend, and friends were everywhere.' Friendship doesn't require having a dynamic personality. Even shy, quiet and reserved individuals can learn to be friendly. It's next to impossible to have no friends, if you yourself are friendly. And the opposite is also true.
Psychologists asked a group of college students to jot down the initials of the people they disliked most. Some of the students could think of only one person, while others listed as many as fourteen. But an interesting fact that came out of the research was, that those who disliked the largest number of people were themselves the most widely disliked. You'll find that the more likeable you are, the more likely you are to like other people and be liked by them.
So here are five ways to make friends: (1) Maintain eye contact. When you talk to people, look them in the eye. (2) Smile! It takes seventy-two muscles to frown, only fourteen to smile - and a smile warms hearts and encourages conversation. (3) Call people by their names. Strangers are just that, strange, but a friend is known. (4) Talk to others about their favourite topic - themselves. (5) Find an occasion to give a word of encouragement or compliment, or to show an act of kindness. When you find a person with these five traits, you've found someone who has a reputation for being friendly.

友誼(2)
一個有朋友的人必須自己很友善。箴言18:24
為了有一個好朋友,你必須先嘗試成為一個好朋友。一位無名的詩人寫道:「我出去找朋友,但找不到一個朋友,我出去做別人朋友,朋友無處不在。」友誼不需要有動感的個性。甚至害羞,安靜和保留的人可以學會友善。如果你自己很友善,那就不可能沒有朋友。相反也是如此。
心理學家要求一群大學生記下他們最不喜歡的人的首字母縮寫。一些學生只能想到只有一個人,而其他人最多列出了十四個。但研究出來的一個有趣的事實是,那些不喜歡最多人的人,本身就是最不喜歡的人。你會發現,你越友善,你更可能喜歡別人,並被他們喜歡。
所以這裡有五種交友方法:(1)保持眼神接觸。當你和人交談的時候,看著他們。 (2)微笑!肌肉皺眉需要七十二個,笑容只有十四個 - 微笑溫暖心靈,鼓勵互相對話。 (3)用他們的名字叫人。陌生人只是這樣陌生,但一個朋友是相互認識的。 (4)與他人談論他們喜歡的話題 – 他們自己。 (5)尋找一個鼓勵或讚美的詞,或表現出善意的行為。當你找到一個具有這五個特徵的人時,你發現一個有友好聲譽的人。

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'He who walks with the wise grows wise, but a companion of fools suffers harm.' Proverbs 13:20 NIV
The story's told of a farmer who was being pestered every day by a flock of crows in his cornfield. Deciding he'd had enough, he loaded his shotgun and crawled unseen along the fencerow, determined to blow those pesky crows out of the sky. Turns out this farmer had a very sociable parrot that indiscriminately made friends with everybody and, seeing the flock of crows, he flew over and joined them in an effort to be friendly. The farmer saw the crows but didn't see his parrot, so he took careful aim, fired, then jumped up and ran over to see how many crows he had shot. Lo and behold, there was his parrot lying on the ground with a broken wing and a chipped beak, but still alive. The farmer tenderly picked him up and brought him home, where his children ran out to meet him. Seeing the injured parrot, they tearfully asked, 'Daddy, what happened?' But before he could answer, the parrot spoke up: 'That's what you get for hanging out with the wrong crowd.'
You can never be at the right place, at the right time, doing the right thing, if you're with the wrong crowd.
And, as a parent, you need to teach this to your children. Monitor their internet use and warn them about predators who deliberately prowl online looking for 'friends.' You say, 'But I can't even turn on a computer!' If you love your child, you'll learn! Web-based horror stories of children being hurt and led astray are multiplying daily. If this sounds strong and urgent - that's because it is!

友誼(3)
「與智慧人同行的必得智慧,和愚昧人做伴的必受虧損。」箴言13:20
這個故事告訴有一個農民,每天都在他的玉米地裡被一群烏鴉滋擾。他決定這已經夠了,他裝載了他的霰彈槍,沿著欄柵爬行,決心把這些討厭的烏鴉射殺。原來,這個農民有一只非常友善的鸚鵡,不分青紅皂白地與其他雀鳥交朋友,看到一群烏鴉,他飛過來加入他們,努力親善。農民看到烏鴉,但沒看見他的鸚鵡,所以他仔細的瞄準,開槍,然後跳起來,跑過去看看他射殺了多少烏鴉。瞧,他的鸚鵡躺在地上,有一個破碎的翅膀和一個碎的喙,但還活著。農夫溫柔地拿起他把他帶回家,孩子們跑出去見他。看到受傷的鸚鵡,他們淚流滿面地問:“爸爸,發生了什麼事?但是在他可以回答之前,鸚鵡就說道:「這就是你和錯誤的人群一起閒逛的結果。」
如果你遇到錯誤的人群,你永遠不會在正確的地方,在正確的時間做正確的事情。
而且,作為父母,你需要教導你的孩子。監控他們的互聯網使用,並警告他們有拐誘在線尋找「朋友」的捕食者。你說,「但我甚至不懂用電腦!如果你愛你的孩子,你會學習!基於互聯網讓孩子受到傷害和誤入歧途的恐怖故事,每天都在增加。如果這聽起來有很強而緊急 - 那是因為它是!


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